Dating Advice from a Buffoon-Sage

You've heard it said that timing is everything, but I'd argue that our mentality plays an even bigger role. Have you ever been able to tell that someone is sad, angry, or joyful without a single word being spoken? I'm a firm believer that our vibe and self-confidence—or lack thereof—is something others can sense, especially when it comes to dating.

We've all been there: a period when it feels like no one wants anything to do with you. Why? Often, it's because they can sense that you're down, depressed, or lacking confidence. When I was in a slump, I found a few pointers that were especially helpful.

Get out of the house.

You'll never meet anyone by hiding away in your apartment. Get out there and meet people, even if it's just other guys or friends who are already in relationships. Make connections and build your social circle. A lot of the time, our misery is a result of us choosing to shut ourselves off from the world.

Some people just won't like you.

This is a tough one to accept, but it's crucial: some people, for whatever reason, just won't be interested in you. This isn't because they're better than you; it's just a simple fact of life. It's not personal, so accept it and move on.

TENS of THOUSANDS of women will want you.

I don't know you, but this is simple math. Statistically, some people are going to like you—and not just a few. Do you know how you can find them? By stopping the self-pity and living life. Make friends and get out and do things that don't involve a computer screen.

This is it.

Don't worry about things that may never happen, and don't spend time dwelling on what has already happened. You can't change the past, and you can't predict the future. The only thing you can do is take care of this day and enjoy it.